A Personal Message
This is my personal comment on Brendan’s donation to Proposition 8. I believe Planet Mozilla is now just for Mozilla content. This is Mozilla content: it’s about the pain people have experienced, which necessarily affects their work and working relationships. I need to do this for myself: if I don’t, I’ll feel isolated and silenced. I hope it may comfort anyone who needs comfort.
In this post, I speak for myself: no one else has read it, edited it, or approved it prior to posting. These words are imperfect and they are mine alone.
tl;dr version: This hurts. If you hurt too, you’re not alone. If anyone needs someone to talk to, I’m here.
I have a strong connection to LGBT issues, including Proposition 8. My wife is bisexual. We have many LGBT friends. Opposition to discrimination and stigma has long been one of my most closely held political beliefs.
I have a strong connection to Brendan. Brendan has been one of my mentors at Mozilla. Brendan is one of the founders of a community I love being a part of, and a company I love working for. Brendan passed on SpiderMonkey module ownership to me.
Because of all these connections, when I learned last Wednesday night that Brendan donated $1000 to support Proposition 8, I experienced intense pain. I was first shocked, then disappointed, then sad, then anxious, then angry, and then back to disappointed. I’ve been able to think of little else at work or at home. I’ve had heartburn, tense muscles, and an anxious, alerted feeling every day.
If you were hurt too, you are not alone.
Various comments have led me to believe that some might not understand why people feel so strongly about this. It’s been suggested that this is just a difference of opinion and we have to learn to live with it. I agree that we have to learn to live with differences, but Proposition 8 is not just a difference of opinion. I can’t speak for everyone, but for me and my wife, Proposition 8:
- by taking away the previously established right of gay couples to marry in California, took away a fundamental right from a class of people, and
- defined gays as second-class citizens in the Constitution of California.
This may not be what Proposition 8 supporters intended. (I hope it was not.) But it is how it was received, and hopefully you can see how painful that would be: imagine that a law was passed saying that you (or a friend or family member) could not marry or stay married to the person you love.
There are probably people who have very different strong feelings about Proposition 8 or Brendan’s donation. If you do, I would be interested in hearing what you have to say. I invite anyone who is affected by this to open up and speak from the heart about what they believe and feel.
I’m sure there are Mozillians who are just as distressed that are not in a position to reach out or express their feelings at work. I hope knowing that you are not alone helps at least a little bit.
I’m available if anyone wants to talk about any aspect of this issue, or just needs someone to vent with, rant at, commiserate with, or whatever.
(Excepting commercial spam) I welcome all comments, public or private, regardless of who you are, what you believe, or the content or tone of your message.